Knowing that someone is not truly interested in you is harder than we can imagine!
And this might happen because of different reasons:
- the person may be an expert at faking their feelings
- We might already be too involved to see the true reality
- or, he might show he is not interested, but we ignore the red flags
In some cases, we end up being the ones chasing them, instead of letting them chase us!
And don’t blame yourself, because WE ALL GO THROUGH IT (at least once in a lifetime!). Going through this rejection is very hard, and only those who go through it understand how painful it is. So if we can avoid it, why not?
This is one of the reasons why, in any type of relationship you get yourself involved with, you need to make sure you know the person before you start catching feelings. If you start catching feelings before you know them, or just knowing a little bit about them, let me tell you in advance – IT’S GAME OVER FOR YOU!
So let’s educate yourselves and learn a few signs that can show a guy is not interested in you:
1. Sleeping with you
I guess we had to start with this one, even though it’s obvious, is the truth! If on the first date, you see him already trying to be a little bit ‘’extra’’ with you, don’t walk away. RUNNNNN INSTEAD!
And if it gets to the point where they are already saying:
’’I want you very much, I love you’’ (You just met each other today, or the other week, but he is already in love with you… hmmmm…)
’’You can trust me, I will be with you forever’’ (You trust me and you don’t even know me for more than 1 week? Wow….)
“You need to show me how much you love me” (He is not showing you anything, he just wants to jump steps, but you have to show him everything?)
Please, don’t fall for that! They should prove to you, that they love you in waiting for the right time.
And don’t get me wrong, this is not only on first interactions but also if you know them for a little while. If you know them enough, you should know that there are 2 types of experts:
Smart Casual Expert:
This will be the normal guy, that tries to make an ‘’extra’’ move on you, and you say ‘’NO’’. From that moment you say ”NO”, prepare yourself to see their true colors, they will start to become distant, especially if you continue on emphasizing you don’t want anything intimate. You don’t even have to do anything, with time, they will leave your life.
Expert Pro 2.0:
This is the type of guy that is experienced. The type that says ‘’if I want, I get it’’. With this one, you are the one who needs to show that you truly meant what you said. If you said ‘’No’’ the first time, everything will continue normally, because they are not easily discouraged. However, when they start seeing you are very serious, they will have to make a decision, either leave or stay. If you fall into their trap, the moment they do with you what they want, they will leave you the same second, and you will know it.
The amount of guys that try to do this with minimal effort is absorbed to me!
But it is a clear sign that they are not interested in you!
2. He is not a Man of his word
If he keeps promising you things that he is not able to fulfill, that’s also a big sign he is not interested. Not only does it show you his character (of not being someone of their word) but it also shows a lack of commitment. And if his word does not carry any weight, do you truly want to include someone like this in your life?
Someone truly interested in you, will not allow words to follow out of their mouth without meaning. Yes, things can happen, but if no one has died, and he does not have a business to take care of, what could be more important than fulfilling his commitment to you? Think on that.
3. Always giving excuses
“I am sorry, something important has come up”
No, no, no!
Yes, things can happen, but what could be more important then fulfilling a time they have set with you? So now you are fully prepared, with your best dress and your beautiful makeup for nothing ?!
There are circumstances and circumstances, but if it’s always happening, be sure he is not interested in you. A man that is interested in you will do everything they can to be with you.
4. Spend days without texting you back
What makes us want to know more about the other person is when we speak with them. The more we speak, the more we are interested, and the more we want to discover about them, consequently this will make us more interested in the person.
Take this initial communication out, and there’s no interest or future interest. So communication in the beginning is key. I am not saying that you send a message and he needs to respond in that exact minute, of course not, we have things in life we need to do and complete. But spending days not speaking to you, and then coming back to send you a text like everything is normal… like, WHAT?!
So you gonna stay a whole week thinking:
”what have I done wrong?”
”why he is not speaking to me?”
”maybe is not going to work out…”
”Should I message him?”
All for him to casually come and say “Hi, how are you?” And then do it again the next week? NOOO! He is not interested girl, move on.
5. Lack of Future Planning
This should be one of the main things spoken at the beginning of a relationship, as it is a significant indication of what the person’s level of commitment to you is going to be.
However, if you see him running away from commitment, and avoiding any question you make about the future with vague answers, you already know.
If he is not willing to commit to you, it’s because he is not 100% interested in you!
If you are in a position where you did not have the opportunity to address this, feel free to do so when it’s the appropriate time and watch his answer. By the answer he will give you, you will know if you are sure and confident, or if you are unsure and doubtful.
6. Comparisons
We don’t know people’s past, and in first interactions, it might be hard for you to know the other person’s full story. Some will tell you straight away, others might not. However, if you find yourself always in a situation where he is comparing you to other people, he is not interested.
Even if it’s your first date with him, I am letting you, he is not interested in you.
It’s not only about the fact that he is comparing you to someone else, but it’s the fact that this “someone else” it’s in his mind. How does he have the audacity to compare you to them?
Disrespectful? Very much.
But it also shows his lack of interest.
Simple Rule:
Even though I tried my best to mention some important signs that he is not interested in you, it is unthinkable to think about every single sign. So there will be things that are not stated here, but in the situation you should know.
If there is a situation you are going through at the moment that I haven’t mentioned in here, the simple rule of thumb is:
If you are not sure, and you are in doubt, is because he is not interested in you.
Because when he is interested in you, it is so evident, that it will leave no space for doubt.
